What do you do when you experience fear?

Dearest community,

This week I’ve been reflecting on the experience of fear.
You probably know this one well—or maybe avoid it like the plague.

Your heart races.
Your brain starts spinning.
A chill moves through your spine.
Your throat constricts.
Maybe there’s a subtle trembling in your body.

Fear is a completely natural part of being human.
And we often feel it most in the places we care about most.

What I’ve been sitting with is this: fear doesn’t have to be destabilizing.
It can be a trailhead—a sacred pause—a moment to check in and meet ourselves more honestly.

Fear is your survival system saying,
“Hey—watch out. Something might not be safe.”
In actual danger? Amazing. Thank you, fear.

But it gets tricky when fear shows up in moments that aren’t life-threatening:

— Sharing your voice
— Loving someone deeply
— Setting a boundary
— Being seen
— Speaking your truth to someone you care about

The body doesn’t always know the difference between a real threat and a perceived one.
It responds to your thoughts, beliefs, and history with the same intensity.

This is where your power begins:
You get to pause.
Check in.
Soothe.
Then move forward—with fear, not in spite of it.

✨ Courage isn’t the absence of fear.
✨ Courage is feeling the fear and choosing to trust yourself anyway.

And let’s be honest:
What you're afraid of might happen.
You could be judged. Someone could leave. You might lose the job.

But real trust is this:
You know—deep down—that you’ve got yourself.
You’ll stay.
You’ll show up.
You’ll move through it.
And you absolutely will be okay.

Here’s an example:

Say you’ve had a painful relationship history—divorce, betrayal, letdowns.
Now, you’re with someone who truly loves you. Who shows up.

And then one day—they’re late. Or out 1:1 with a friend.
Your chest tightens. Your breath shortens. Your mind races.

Fear.

But fear isn’t your enemy.
It’s trying to protect you.
It’s saying: “Pause. Are we safe? I’m not sure yet. Please be careful.”

The beautiful thing is: fear actually cares about you.
It’s here to serve.

So you pause. Breathe. Ask:

Am I safe right now, in this moment?
If yes, then you ask:

Where is this fear coming from?
What does it need?

Maybe it says: “I need to feel safe.”

You don’t shame it. You don’t shove it down.

You say:
Hey. I see you. I know you’re trying to protect me. Thank you.
I’m here now. I’m in charge. I’ve got us.
You can ride with me—but I’m driving.
You get to trust me now.

That’s self-leadership.
That’s courage.

That’s how we walk forward—with fear.
With trust.
With freedom.
With newfound self-respect.

And if fear lives in your body (it often does), it deserves more than mindset work alone.
Our pelvis holds deep patterns of protection, tension, and unspoken fear.

I’m offering 1:1 virtual pelvic-centered sessions to help you release, soften, and reconnect with your own embodied safety and inner leadership.

✨ For a limited time, I’m offering $75 intro sessions for virtual pelvic floor health support.
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You don’t have to do this alone.
Your body can remember how to trust.
Let’s help it feel safe, supported and experience peace.

You can also reach out for 1:1 restorative bodywork or yoga sessions by replying to this email or clicking the link below.

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I would be honored to support you on your journey of being a well-rested, relaxed, and self-led human.

With all my love,
Kam

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